Sue Richards, regular Canadian gal, heats up as her reproductive Best Before Date expires.
Monday, 10 April 2006
My reoccurring thought theme for the weekend went something like this.
What would happen if women stopped lying to themselves? How would our lives change? How would the world change?
White lies, bold lies, giant stinking lies, little tiny lies, hand-me-down lies, force fed lies, completely full of shit lies, inherited lies, projected lies, hold your breath lies, wishful thinking lies, ignorance is bliss lies, blaming lies, deep dark secret lies, lies about our hearts, souls, bodies….spirit.
Frequently I read that menopause is a time for women to become their authentic selves. So I wonder. Are menopausal mood swings designed to crack our thick, life created shell of lies? Is the anger, despair and frustration so frequently reported by so many women I speak with, natures way of freeing us from decades of smiling sweetly and wiping up other peoples asses?
Or do we simply need to lie in order to be safe in a world clearly run by men?
Monday is bringing out the cantankerous in me.
Sue Richards
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April 12th, 2006 at 12:59 pm
Sue,
I love this post. I think it’s my favourite one of all of them. (It’s me from Pausing Moments.)
I’m so with you on the “cantankerous” thing. You articulated well what I wish I had been able to say.
Back in my 30’s I remember thinking that during PMS I really got down to the brass tacks of my “issues.” Now, pretty much 20 years later I wish I had tackled those “issues” head on…though I don’t know how…I was up to my eyeballs with life.
In the last 5 years I did in fact go ahead & stop lying (if that is what it was, though I think it’s more of a case of just not telling the “whole” truth & yes, for safety reasons). I think for some of us, we do crack through that hard shell & finally emerge. I know others though that seem to be in a hard shell that is getting harder & harder.
For me, perimeno & menopause has been a time of becoming my “authentic” self. I’ve kind of rattled the earth that others walk on though.
April 12th, 2006 at 1:23 pm
Bloomer,
Lies layer like onions. Just when I believe I’m being honest with myself, I discover yet another twisted take lurking beneath.
There’s a Hollywood movie in here somewhere…
BTW, I’ve changed your url. Fingers crossed on your new incarnation.
Sue
April 12th, 2006 at 2:34 pm
Thanks for the change in link Sue.
So true about the layers. I’ve been going through some rough patches recently & maybe that’s what it is yet again…more layers, more truth that uncovers the lies. It’s like a part of me is in there & wants to get out but it can’t quite find the right opening. I’m tired of trying to do everything “right” though. I just want out but have been rather clumsy about it. I’m like a pinball machine lately.
May 23rd, 2006 at 2:59 pm
I just attributed it to age rather than menopause, but now I see you might be onto something. In any event, it’s completely true that I suffer fools waaaay less galdly than ever before, and speak my mind so directly it startles even me.